Gary, “OK, I now am an atheist, and will concoct my own set of ethics.” I stopped believing in God in 1955, when I was 13. But I’d had a strong commitment to honesty and integrity as far back as I can remember, and found ongoing value in the strong moral values of my Christian mother. I had, and have, a concern for others and avoiding harming or exploiting them. I’ve commented once before that I was very trusting, and it was only at age 25 that I realised that the perception of the world that I’d received from society was deeply flawed, that I needed to work things out for myself.
The panca-sila (five-fold morality) taught by the Buddha, which I came across via Goenka in 1972, was consistent with much of how I already behaved although I had to deal with sexual promiscuity and drug use. In doing so, I at first was motivated by conforming to an externally-derived morality, as are many people of religious faith. But I knew that such conformity was not sufficient, to be truly moral you need to develop your own understanding and wisdom – to “know thyself,” as many saints and sages have advised – so that the morality is embedded, is intrinsic, is how you are. The reason that we’ve been having these discussions at CE is that many people in positions of authority and influence do not have this embedded morality, whatever morality they might profess is belied by their actions, hence the loss of trust in what they say.
It doesn’t matter what external ethical standards might be promoted, the change must be within each individual. Whether or not there is a gods or gods is secondary, each of us is responsible for our own volition and behaviour, we have to resolve issues of morality within ourselves. If there is a god or gods as posited by Christianity and other religions, I’m sure that he/she/they would be happy with my approach and life. Most major religions have similar views on core morality, most/all also have various rites, rituals and practices which have nothing whatsoever to do with living a harmonious life, good for you and good for others. The latter become a barrier to stripping away accreted nonsense and living a truly moral life.
I lead a moral life not because of any external teaching, not from fear of retribution, not because someone else thinks I should, but because I worked hard at a practice which develops understanding and wisdom, which breaks down past conditionings and reduces or eliminates the forming of new ones, and which makes you inherently moral.